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Happy New Year in Advance

Hello everyone, Incase I have not said happy New Year in advance. Happy New year!!! Ugh, a lot of things happened to me this year 2022; I lost my younger brother in January , quit my job in May and quit the new one in October. I met some cool people and lost some. I went through an emotional roller coaster and my blood pressure got really high. There is a lot to unpack here but I really don’t feel like writing about it. Yes that is another thing; I have not been feeling like writing anything since I started staying at home again. I don’t feel like seeing people or going out. Been thinking of how to make money without having to go to work six days a week every single morning, facing Lagos traffic and all the crazies that come with 9 to 5. I feel hung-over typing this - tried to write articles every day but that didn’t work out, keep questioning myself if I am a good writer and why is it taking me this long to write something.   Two days ago, I was really upset and just irritated. You kn

How to leave a toxic job when you don't have another lined up

The indicators of a poisonous relationship are typically the same, whether it's with a partner, friend, or family member: your views and opinions are not valued, you're the only one ready to compromise or put in work to improve the connection, and you continuously feel like you're walking on eggshells. It may have a significant impact on your mental health and well-being, as I just discovered firsthand. My toxic connection, however, was not with a love partner or a friend; it was with my job.   The term "toxic jobs" refers to unfavourable work settings that put a burden on employees' mental health. These environments often feature abusive managers, discriminatory or harassing conduct, heavy office politics, and a climate of gossip or rivalry.   And these settings are more frequent than you would think: according to a 2020 Emtrain poll, 41% of employees do not believe their company would take a harassment report seriously, and 29% had left a job due to workplac

50 Awesome Ways to Make Your Life Better

Don't we all want to better our lives? Of course, we do. Even though sometimes we feel like crap and don't want to do anything about it or even try, because what is the point. After all, we will all end up six feet, right? Hmm, but the truth is, as long as we are in this world, we just want to be happy and live a fulfilled life where everything works and where we are loved by all -most importantly the ones that are really close to us. I'll tell you this; our lives can't be hundred per cent but they could be close. And yes though we can't always feel accomplished but we can at least try. Here are a few ways (50 awesome ways actually) to make your life better.

When you don't know what to do

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Why I am Not having Sex

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

How to get over someone you love

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim