Life And Dating

Don't we all want to better our lives? Of course, we do. Even though sometimes we feel like crap and don't want to do anything about it or even try, because what is the point. After all, we will all end up six feet, right? Hmm, but the truth is, as long as we are in this world, we just want to be happy and live a fulfilled life where everything works and where we are loved by all -most importantly the ones that are really close to us. I'll tell you this; our lives can't be hundred per cent but they could be close. And yes though we can't always feel accomplished but we can at least try. Here are a few ways (50 awesome ways actually) to make your life better.

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

Here's a letter to my ex that shouldn't have been an ex in the first place; Dear Valentine, I kept on thinking about our conversation after we ended the call yesterday and I just haven't gotten over it. I'm just sad. After saying you were testing me, it got me thinking how someone that claims to love you would use your weakness against you. You once said you couldn't figure me out and that I should help you out. I didn't want to cause I feared what would happen ,yet I opened up and told you about things that get me upset, I even explained my mood swings that time of the month. But you chose to "test " me after I spoke to you about my colleagues. After you flared up about video call ( when you should have been honest with me about it from the start),have I ever talked about it with you since then? No!  Because I know it's not something you like and I don't want to upset you. That is what people that love each other do. They both know

Hey guys, How are  you all doing? Hope great. I'm fine thank you for asking. So I know it's been a while you heard from me,well I've been busy with moving with my family ,work, mum feeling sick,Easter …. It's been a year guys…And you know what?  Though I've been really stressed, I like that I've been very busy:you know, not worry about not being in a relationship and all that crap (yeah I call it crap cause dating is hard and Nigerian men don't make it easy). The strange thing is, while I was pursuing money and getting really busy, somehow I've managed to be social - well not entirely, I'm quite the introvert but I met a new friend.  I know you are wondering oh just one friend?! Trust me making friends is not the problem, it's making genuine friends...So yeah, it's a big deal for me. Anyways, I met this friend while I was house hunting (she is a lady, in case you are wondering),half Ghanai

Okay guys ,you know I said I needed a job like yesterday but the thing is, in a way it has been affecting my writing. The last article was in a bus and so is this one. Did I also mention I live in Lagos? So imagine how uncomfortable it will be... But I just have to try, especially for you guys. This is the fourth month since I started the job and I'll tell you, I'm still figuring it out.  Let me tell you about the job ; it's a facility management company and to be honest, the job is just me (I'm mostly in control of everything that goes on in my apartment and building)... What I mean is, it's my everyday life ;I'm the help desk - I take request from a resident and it's not something that is strange to me even though it's my first time working for a facility company. The thing is, the building (which is also my office) is on the Island and I stay on the mainland - anyone living in Nigeria would know how crazy Lagos traffic can be which means one have to

Sometimes I ask myself what married men want from single girl, in other words…why they cheat and I summarized it to a few things. You see, people always have reasons for what they do which is normal. These days, cheating seems to be what’s up and what’s hot, that if you are not doing so, you are not from this world. Some might say the problem is from their wives, others might say he is just a player and a man might just say it happens. Well, I’d like to say, while some would say it’s their nature, married men just want these from single girls; Your body Let’s get real here, it is really rare to see a married man cheat with his age mate or someone older than his wife and here is why; men are attracted by what they see. Before a man approaches a lady, the first thing he is drawn to is her beauty. So imagine a man seeing a young girl (maybe a student –they usually love them since most of them are not looking to commit) with her youthful, innocent body and face, he will be naturally