Life And Dating

  I didn't know what to feel when you shared a photo of your fiancee wearing her engagement ring. And then my heart starts to hurt and tears fall down my eyes. I ask myself, where do I go from here? What do I do now? Will I ever get married? Was my instinct wrong all along? I thought you and I were endgame. All these while, I silently waited. Who will I love now? Who will get me as you do? who loves the same music as I do and looks at me the way you do? Am I hallucinating? Was it all I'm my head? Was I wrong about you all these while? She is cute. Is she all you ever wanted? Oh, it hurts! It hurts, I can't sleep. Tears won't stop falling down my eyes.  I feel like a part of me died. What is the point of hustling anymore? What is the point of being a better version of myself?  Why am I trying so hard? Who can I love again? Who can I love? God I need your comfort, I don't know how I will get through this. I don't know how to live again. I am going through

Hello everyone, Incase I have not said happy New Year in advance. Happy New year!!! Ugh, a lot of things happened to me this year 2022; I lost my younger brother in January , quit my job in May and quit the new one in October. I met some cool people and lost some. I went through an emotional roller coaster and my blood pressure got really high. There is a lot to unpack here but I really don’t feel like writing about it. Yes that is another thing; I have not been feeling like writing anything since I started staying at home again. I don’t feel like seeing people or going out. Been thinking of how to make money without having to go to work six days a week every single morning, facing Lagos traffic and all the crazies that come with 9 to 5. I feel hung-over typing this - tried to write articles every day but that didn’t work out, keep questioning myself if I am a good writer and why is it taking me this long to write something.   Two days ago, I was really upset and just irritated. You kn

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Hey guys, How are  you all doing? Hope great. I'm fine thank you for asking. So I know it's been a while you heard from me,well I've been busy with moving with my family ,work, mum feeling sick,Easter …. It's been a year guys…And you know what?  Though I've been really stressed, I like that I've been very busy:you know, not worry about not being in a relationship and all that crap (yeah I call it crap cause dating is hard and Nigerian men don't make it easy). The strange thing is, while I was pursuing money and getting really busy, somehow I've managed to be social - well not entirely, I'm quite the introvert but I met a new friend.  I know you are wondering oh just one friend?! Trust me making friends is not the problem, it's making genuine friends...So yeah, it's a big deal for me. Anyways, I met this friend while I was house hunting (she is a lady, in case you are wondering),half Ghanai

Yeah it just so happens that I'm attracted to really attractive married man. You know, I had no idea he was married when we met the first time - it was at my work place. Like I mentioned on balancing work and life. ..I work in a facility and this particular guy is in charge of maintaining the lift. On that first day, I was with my colleague and boss when he walked in and I was like who is this tall, dark and handsome fella (and really young) but I wasn't really focused on him cause I had a lot of work to do that day and calls make. Didn't know he was still around, so I stepped outside to make a personal call when he drove by and said hi (would have mentioned the name of the car but I'm not good with cars) and I said hi back. He introduced himself, said I look nice and asked if I had anything for lunch, I said not yet and he gave me two thousand Naira to have lunch and asked for my number; I gladly gave him since I didn't see a ring in his finger. Af

Hi everyone, Happy new  year!!! Been MIA for too long and I have a good reason for that . You see, I got a job and it's been taking my time a lot -like I work Mondays to Saturdays (well, half day but what's the difference? As long as I leave my house that day, it doesn't matter when I get  back.  Anywho, I'm sort of back -i said sort of cause I'm still trying to figure out how I would keep posting articles with my work schedule (fingers crossed) but you know what? This is 2019,so no excuses, we just have to try however we can to achieve what we need to achieve (whether it is comfortable or not).  Besides I'm using my phone to write this on my way home, so what's your excuse? The job is on the island and I live on the mainland so I've been trying to get used to the routine so it doesn't affect the job and my writing of course  - if I'm not in that frame of mind, I won't give you something with quality.  So my friends, I just want to wis