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Thought you were the one,guess i was wrong

  I didn't know what to feel when you shared a photo of your fiancee wearing her engagement ring. And then my heart starts to hurt and tears fall down my eyes. I ask myself, where do I go from here? What do I do now? Will I ever get married? Was my instinct wrong all along? I thought you and I were endgame. All these while, I silently waited. Who will I love now? Who will get me as you do? who loves the same music as I do and looks at me the way you do? Am I hallucinating? Was it all I'm my head? Was I wrong about you all these while? She is cute. Is she all you ever wanted? Oh, it hurts! It hurts, I can't sleep. Tears won't stop falling down my eyes.  I feel like a part of me died. What is the point of hustling anymore? What is the point of being a better version of myself?  Why am I trying so hard? Who can I love again? Who can I love? God I need your comfort, I don't know how I will get through this. I don't know how to live again. I am going through

Why I am Not having Sex

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

How to get over someone you love

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim

What happens if you lose your virginity before 22?

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

Why you should not make your boyfriend jealous

Most of us, especially young couples feel the need to make their boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, why do we do this though? Is it to get attention, to spice up the relationship or just to play games? Relationships comes with everything; the happy, the sad, the good, the bad and the ugly but it takes people that really love and respect each other to know that they don’t need to make the other person feel jealous. This is why you should not try to make your boyfriend jealous; Someone always get hurt Someone always gets hurt in the process. I remember myuniversity days when I tried to make my boyfriend jealous by always meeting with his friend. The thing is, I had no idea that his friends had a plan to set me up – well, cause of how my then boyfriend bragged about me (Also, his friend secretly liked me). So this best friend bet with his other friends that he would get me. My boyfriend and I were having a misunderstanding and his friend kind of took advantage of it –it was funny how

Thought he was the one, Guess I was wrong

People will always disappoint you, no matter who they are or who they used be.  Though it hurts when it's someone you really love, it really hurts... You know, we date people and break up. Some we break up for good reasons, some for bad and some for something that don't just make any sense.  Sometimes we want to get back with them, maybe like the latter...which is due to a little misunderstanding but it doesn't always work out that way . I went to see my ex last year , he lives in another state and invited me. This was after I reached out;  I did it cause since we broke up, we keep going on a roller coaster - this year I'll block him, next year we are in contact again. I just wanted to grow the F-up.  And yes a part of me misses him, I kept wondering what went wrong. It's a long story but I really want to talk about it, so here goes; It all started during my prescience, I met this talk, lanky, fair  handsome but shy guy, we say 'hello' 'hi',