Happy new year Life and Dating readers!!!

Hi everyone,

Happy new  year!!! Been MIA for too long and I have a good reason for that . You see, I got a job and it's been taking my time a lot -like I work Mondays to Saturdays (well, half day but what's the difference? As long as I leave my house that day, it doesn't matter when I get  back.  Anywho, I'm sort of back -i said sort of cause I'm still trying to figure out how I would keep posting articles with my work schedule (fingers crossed) but you know what? This is 2019,so no excuses, we just have to try however we can to achieve what we need to achieve (whether it is comfortable or not).  Besides I'm using my phone to write this on my way home, so what's your excuse?

The job is on the island and I live on the mainland so I've been trying to get used to the routine so it doesn't affect the job and my writing of course  - if I'm not in that frame of mind, I won't give you something with quality.  So my friends, I just want to wish you a happy new year and the best this world and beyond has to offer. Don't be bothered about your struggles ; be it at work, relationships, family, health... Whatever it is, just keep moving.  Keep trying and remember, consistency is key.  Always look for solutions not problems - if it ain't broke right? Always make yourself happy cause no one can expect you  - you just have to accept what you can't change and do what feels right.  It applies to every part of your life. Make sure you stay healthy and away from toxic /negative people. .. You don't need the darling!

I'm grateful for you guys (my loyal readers), thank God we made it.   I love you all, you are very important and the world needs everyone of you - remember that!

Once again, Happy new year!!! Don't work so hard but smart. Do something daring this year. Resolution? Hmm... Just do what feels right, one day at a time. You'll be alright *smiles*
Until I write next (bear with my writing schedule) ...please accept me the way I am.
Wish you and yours a great 2019.

What Married Men want from single girls

What Married Men want from single girls
Sometimes I ask myself what married men want from single girl, in other words…why they cheat and I summarized it to a few things. You see, people always have reasons for what they do which is normal. These days, cheating seems to be what’s up and what’s hot, that if you are not doing so, you are not from this world. Some might say the problem is from their wives, others might say he is just a player and a man might just say it happens. Well, I’d like to say, while some would say it’s their nature, married men just want these from single girls;

Your body

Let’s get real here, it is really rare to see a married man cheat with his age mate or someone older than his wife and here is why; men are attracted by what they see. Before a man approaches a lady, the first thing he is drawn to is her beauty. So imagine a man seeing a young girl (maybe a student –they usually love them since most of them are not looking to commit) with her youthful, innocent body and face, he will be naturally drawn to her and want to have a taste of that. Though married women these days look after themselves, some don’t really care; the minute they say I do, they feel they don’t have to try anymore and this make their men want something different “spontaneous”  and not boring.
Your time and undivided attention
Men are like babies, don’t mind that they look mature and all –they love attention and respect, and like to feel like they are the only person in your life. And single ladies give them these things even when they know they are not the only men in their lives *wink*. Most married women, after they tie the knot and have a child, the child becomes the center of their world –though it’s not a bad thing, men don’t see it that way. They feel like they have been replaced by those cute little creatures and then they try to look for attention elsewhere. Not that these men need women 24/7, they also love their space (I’m sure we are familiar with the “man cave”), they just need their women to be available whenever they need them to be. And single girls make time for them and give them their undivided attention –after all, there are no babies crying to be fed or changed.

Not to be their wives

Just like the undivided attention and physical appearance, these married men cheat with someone exactly opposite to their wives. They expect a single girl to be fit, fun and obedient. Therefore, always look hot and bed ready, no excuses, give me something new every time we meet and do whatever I want you to do. Since their wives are trying to juggle a job, keep the home, being a wife and mother; I doubt she is bothered about looking sexy unless she is a Hollywood actress that can hire as much nannies as she wants so she could look pretty for the camera.

Make them feel good

Just like them wanting attention, they always want to feel good whenever they are with you. And since you both don’t see all the time compared to his house wife, so it’s pretty easy for single girls to give them. Somehow, going out with a younger lady makes them feel young again and reminds them of some good times in the past. They don’t cheat with their age mates because they know those ones would call them on their bullshit sometimes. But with younger ladies (especially the ones with daddy issues), they see these men as their heroes and would do anything they want just to please them.

No drama
As long as these men are providing for these single girls, they expect nothing but peace and a good time. As a lady, you know he is already married, so you don’t get your hopes up on any possibility of marriage with him. Therefore, he expects that you are on the same page with him and just want to have a good time…well as long as he is providing for you. Though some singles girls give drama, it is mostly the ones that had no idea the man is married or he became too emotional with her –some men do these; make her feel like he loves her and  is on the verge of divorcing his wife . That is when a single girl might give drama; if she is emotionally invested and maybe have some insecurity. So men if you don’t want drama don’t start drama.

Has nothing to do with their wives
You might think that a man cheats because he doesn’t love his wife but it’s not true. Most times they cheat because of some internal issues; he was probably the guy that never got the hot girl in school, he is looking for some sort of validation or now that he is finally married he feels he has what it takes to woo any woman.
It’s a phase
After some men get married and have kids, some even before they have kids…they feel like they want to know if they “still got it”. Some might ask for a young lady’s number and end up not calling her; they just want to know if a hot girl can still give them her number. While some men are pressured by their friends when they say things like “you wife is controlling you”, “you are not acting like a man anymore”. They just try to prove to them that they are still the same person and marriage did not change them.

Too much money
I call these “one money miss road”. These type of men are the ones that let money define them –they just want to show off their wealth and since they believe ladies are all about the money, they use it to attract them hence cheat with them.
This post is not in any way encouraging infidelity or girls having sugar daddies, it’s just on what men want from single girls and why they cheat with them. So it’s not about the women, it’s about them; it’s what they want, they get. As women you are just there for the ride; for as long as it’s convenient for them. What do you think? Why do men cheat with young single girls?

What is on my mind right now?

What is on my mind right now?

Um, there are a lot of things on my mind but right now is staring at my blog account, seeing how i have not been able to post anything for two weeks. To be honest a lot have been going on that i didn't know how i totally abandoned my blog. It's not that i haven't thought of writing something, it’s just before i try to write something, I tell myself it has to be a very long post and i ask if i have enough time to write it.

Why do I keep having dreams of my ex?

Okay, since last year I've been having dreams of my ex, who was also my first love. From, my dating experience, you can see why it didn't work out. Though, it was painful but it had to be done. After the breakup, I felt we had unfinished business or some closure to do  that each time we see it doesn't feel like we have. I barely dreamt about him but it became serious beginning of last year, that I had to buzz him on Facebook where he quickly told me he is engaged to be married as if I was trying to get him back. I wasn't trying to get him back, a part of me just wanted to know why I had that first dream which I barely have of him.

Don't settle for less,you deserve better

Don't settle for less,you deserve better
That’s what I heard growing up; either from people, in a song or family but I never really understood it until life began to deal with me. Don’t settle for less, you deserve better, you are too good for this and that… And you know what? It is true. Despite what life throws at you, you are better than that, you deserve more than what you are getting. We are all here for a reason, a purpose and need to be able to take it – whatever that is.

Before You Start Blogging

Before You Start Blogging
Before blogging became what it is today, it was more of an online journal. But now, it’s a form of business and people are making not just a living but a fortune from it. Normally I love writing; I would write in my notebook or diary, so when I discovered blogging, I was excited to show the word my craft.  When some Nigerian bloggers like Linda Ikeji and Bella Naija started making money from it, I thought “oh, this is great”, I should start making money but the truth is, it’s not as easy as it seems. If you want to start a blog; whether as a hobby (the truth is, it always starts this way but then when you hear people making money from it, you become tempted to want to know how to make money as well) or business, you need to;