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When you don't know what to do

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Why I am Not having Sex

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

How to get over someone you love

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim

Happy New Year LD Family!!!

Thank God for making us see this year. Grateful for family, friends and you all. I'm excited that this year is a year of hope and celebration. Today is Friday- the year started on a weekend! You know what that means *smiles*. I just want each and everyone of us to have hope and faith ,that we may never experience what we experienced last year in the rest of our lifetime. That this new day is the beginning of everything good and new. The problems and troubles of 2020 has been washed away.  It's a new dawn, it's a new day, it's a new life!!! Live this year like it's golden, love like its your last day on earth and dance like nobody's watching. I love you all and can't wait to start telling you amazing stories. Happy New year LD family!!!

Merry Christmas and a Prosperous New year

  We at Life and Dating would like to wish you all a Merry Christmas and a prosperous new year. This year have been tough and made us feel all kinds of things but in the end we are alive to experience the joy of Christmas. It’s just a shame that with everything that the pandemic has taught us, some people won’t change -I’m talking about doing better and living a life full of love and compassion. But would that stop us from being good and doing the right things? It shouldn’t. We should always try to be the best version of ourselves and let the world feel our presence in a positive light. No matter what the bitter people of this world bring our way. You are better that who they say you are, you matter and the world is grateful for you in it. We pray for a better 2021, filled with love, compassion, peace, joy and prosperity. Hope to see you next year and hope that your great dreams come true. Merry Christmas once again, See you 2021!

What happens if you lose your virginity before 22?

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

Why you should not make your boyfriend jealous

Most of us, especially young couples feel the need to make their boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, why do we do this though? Is it to get attention, to spice up the relationship or just to play games? Relationships comes with everything; the happy, the sad, the good, the bad and the ugly but it takes people that really love and respect each other to know that they don’t need to make the other person feel jealous. This is why you should not try to make your boyfriend jealous; Someone always get hurt Someone always gets hurt in the process. I remember myuniversity days when I tried to make my boyfriend jealous by always meeting with his friend. The thing is, I had no idea that his friends had a plan to set me up – well, cause of how my then boyfriend bragged about me (Also, his friend secretly liked me). So this best friend bet with his other friends that he would get me. My boyfriend and I were having a misunderstanding and his friend kind of took advantage of it –it was funny how

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