The Rich Guy (Cont'd)
I went home that night thinking, how did I meet such a rich and stable guy; the truth is ,apart from my university boyfriend (well, there’s not much expectation there),the guys I have been dating have been either broke and just entering the labor force or are already working but still living with their parents. No one had a stable job, a fenced duplex …just very comfortable.
This Hausa guy had money and was not afraid to flaunt it (when are they ever) and somehow, he felt that should be enough to make me interested in him but it wasn’t. Spending time with him was really boring, you would think someone with that much money would be interesting; you know sweep me off my feet. And no, I’m not all about money, like I said earlier, I have dated guys that had nothing ‘financially’ but I enjoyed their company and we just get along really well.
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Though he wasn’t a potential boyfriend, he was rich and
connected. I hated my job, was underpaid and I needed the help I could get.
Don’t get me wrong, I tried to give it a chance but there was no connection.
Besides he had a fiancée, he was not innocent as well. Oh wait! I didn’t tell you how the evening
ended; his house was big, nice kitchen, well-furnished living room and three
rooms upstairs where he used one for his office, very neat and spacious
bathroom…in a nut shell, he had great taste. Okay so, after he prepared his
chicken jollof rice (rice porridge) mixed with lettuce and other salad stuff
(uh yuck!), as we ate I wanted to tune in to E! news (did I mention I love
entertainment news? alright!), he sort of condemned it and insisted we watch a
movie channel which was okay but I really don’t like when I visit a guy for the
first time and he doesn’t allow me to watch any channel, I mean; I’m only here
for few hours ,I don’t intend to sleep there, geez! We quietly watched the action movie (yeah, can
you imagine?),I don’t know if he was expecting me to sleep over but he acted
like it. After a while, I started giving
hints that I have to go and he was like ‘okay’. So he opened his arms wide for
a hug which I think is what most of these men in their forties do, like I’m I
supposed to feel something from the hug (my heart is not made of stone but I’m
sure you know what I mean). As we hugged and I tried to pull back, he leaned in
for a kiss with his tongue – ugh! Why do they do that? And I mean Africa men, well
most Nigerian men since that’s where I’m experienced.
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Dating him was not an option and I think he sensed I wasn’t
into him (even if I was, I don’t sleep in a guy’s house that I’m not in a
relationship with) cause most girls would sleep over after seeing that house. Anyhow,
I still wanted to be his friend, so I called him to check on him and he invited
me to his office. I got there, he offered coffee but I wasn’t interested, we
discussed and he talked about his business and that he would be travelling to
meet his fiancée soon. Well, after I left that day I knew I probably won’t be
seeing him again since the job thing for me was not working (he kept telling me
stories) and lied about being transferred to the north, lol. I knew it was a
way for him to just not see me anymore; I wasn’t planning on having sex with
him since I kind of revealed to him that I don’t enjoy sex. I tried his number
after he got back from Dubai but he barred (what an as#h@le right?) my calls
and that was it. Few months after I saw him drive passed me; I just shook my
head and laughed ‘transfer indeed’.
Most times I wonder what men think women want and yes from
my little examples, I doubt they ‘men’ were interested in what I want but what
they wanted. The truth is as women, we just want a guy that is real, a man that
knows what he wants and is not afraid to go for it; going for it the right way,
we want to see genuine love and care. I also believe if you really love someone
you would do right by her, you’ll be patient and not be in a hurry to jump into
her pants. As women, we want a man that don’t just want us but wants to
understand us and share his life with us (It’s not about your money or your body,
it’s really about your heart),I’m speaking of lasting love not just a hook up
or whatever). A man that is not intimidated by us or expects us to be a certain
way, respects us and allow us be who we want to be and still love us anyways.
click here for PART 2 and PART 1
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