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Thought you were the one,guess i was wrong

  I didn't know what to feel when you shared a photo of your fiancee wearing her engagement ring. And then my heart starts to hurt and tears fall down my eyes. I ask myself, where do I go from here? What do I do now? Will I ever get married? Was my instinct wrong all along? I thought you and I were endgame. All these while, I silently waited. Who will I love now? Who will get me as you do? who loves the same music as I do and looks at me the way you do? Am I hallucinating? Was it all I'm my head? Was I wrong about you all these while? She is cute. Is she all you ever wanted? Oh, it hurts! It hurts, I can't sleep. Tears won't stop falling down my eyes.  I feel like a part of me died. What is the point of hustling anymore? What is the point of being a better version of myself?  Why am I trying so hard? Who can I love again? Who can I love? God I need your comfort, I don't know how I will get through this. I don't know how to live again. I am going through

Why I am Not having Sex

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

How to get over someone you love

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim

What happens if you lose your virginity before 22?

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

Why you should not make your boyfriend jealous

Most of us, especially young couples feel the need to make their boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, why do we do this though? Is it to get attention, to spice up the relationship or just to play games? Relationships comes with everything; the happy, the sad, the good, the bad and the ugly but it takes people that really love and respect each other to know that they don’t need to make the other person feel jealous. This is why you should not try to make your boyfriend jealous; Someone always get hurt Someone always gets hurt in the process. I remember myuniversity days when I tried to make my boyfriend jealous by always meeting with his friend. The thing is, I had no idea that his friends had a plan to set me up – well, cause of how my then boyfriend bragged about me (Also, his friend secretly liked me). So this best friend bet with his other friends that he would get me. My boyfriend and I were having a misunderstanding and his friend kind of took advantage of it –it was funny how

Thought he was the one, Guess I was wrong

People will always disappoint you, no matter who they are or who they used be.  Though it hurts when it's someone you really love, it really hurts... You know, we date people and break up. Some we break up for good reasons, some for bad and some for something that don't just make any sense.  Sometimes we want to get back with them, maybe like the latter...which is due to a little misunderstanding but it doesn't always work out that way . I went to see my ex last year , he lives in another state and invited me. This was after I reached out;  I did it cause since we broke up, we keep going on a roller coaster - this year I'll block him, next year we are in contact again. I just wanted to grow the F-up.  And yes a part of me misses him, I kept wondering what went wrong. It's a long story but I really want to talk about it, so here goes; It all started during my prescience, I met this talk, lanky, fair  handsome but shy guy, we say 'hello' 'hi',

Being attracted to a married man

Yeah it just so happens that I'm attracted to really attractive married man. You know, I had no idea he was married when we met the first time - it was at my work place. Like I mentioned on balancing work and life. ..I work in a facility and this particular guy is in charge of maintaining the lift. On that first day, I was with my colleague and boss when he walked in and I was like who is this tall, dark and handsome fella (and really young) but I wasn't really focused on him cause I had a lot of work to do that day and calls make. Didn't know he was still around, so I stepped outside to make a personal call when he drove by and said hi (would have mentioned the name of the car but I'm not good with cars) and I said hi back. He introduced himself, said I look nice and asked if I had anything for lunch, I said not yet and he gave me two thousand Naira to have lunch and asked for my number; I gladly gave him since I didn't see a ring in his finger. Af

What Married Men want from single girls

Sometimes I ask myself what married men want from single girl, in other words…why they cheat and I summarized it to a few things. You see, people always have reasons for what they do which is normal. These days, cheating seems to be what’s up and what’s hot, that if you are not doing so, you are not from this world. Some might say the problem is from their wives, others might say he is just a player and a man might just say it happens. Well, I’d like to say, while some would say it’s their nature, married men just want these from single girls; Your body Let’s get real here, it is really rare to see a married man cheat with his age mate or someone older than his wife and here is why; men are attracted by what they see. Before a man approaches a lady, the first thing he is drawn to is her beauty. So imagine a man seeing a young girl (maybe a student –they usually love them since most of them are not looking to commit) with her youthful, innocent body and face, he will be naturally

Why do I keep having dreams of my ex?

Okay, since last year I've been having dreams of my ex, who was also my first love . From, my dating experience, you can see why it didn't work out. Though, it was painful but it had to be done. After the breakup, I felt we had unfinished business or some closure to do  that each time we see it doesn't feel like we have. I barely dreamt about him but it became serious beginning of last year, that I had to buzz him on Facebook where he quickly told me he is engaged to be married as if I was trying to get him back. I wasn't trying to get him back, a part of me just wanted to know why I had that first dream which I barely have of him.

Don't settle for less,you deserve better

That’s what I heard growing up; either from people, in a song or family but I never really understood it until life began to deal with me. Don’t settle for less, you deserve better, you are too good for this and that… And you know what? It is true. Despite what life throws at you, you are better than that, you deserve more than what you are getting. We are all here for a reason, a purpose and need to be able to take it – whatever that is.

How lonely are you?

Relationship wise, I'm really lonely… well career wise as well. You know, sometimes I want my alone time. Yes I know I want someone in my life but sometimes I think about being with one person for the rest of my life. I know you are wondering if I'm alright,i promise you I am and I want to believe I'm not the only one who feels this way.  Maybe it's because I have not found the right person to be with -being with the right person makes the relationship easier and worthwhile…. At least that's what I want to believe since I have not met the right person yet.

My Dating experience :My First Love Part 6

The next day, I was waiting for my boyfriend, the agent, anyone … Thankfully, he arrived in the afternoon - he went to the agent house for the key before he came. I was so relieved; I hugged him and he joked about me being locked up. I followed him to give the key back to the agent.

My dating experience :My First Love Part 5 {Cont'd}

We arrived for second semester and it was my last semester in that School. I was excited cause I didn't have to worry about getting through with some courses; not like they were hard but you know they are some annoying lecturers that just enjoy failing people while some just want you to bribe them not to...Either way, I was excited but not too excited cause I would miss my friends.

My dating experience :My First Love Part 5

It was the first semester of my final year,i was preparing for my exams and living with my boyfriend - it wasn't  a wise choice.  Sometimes, we (my boyfriend and I)  would study together, other times I'd go for night class and study there. I got used to my boyfriend not making me a priority, keeping late nights, being too friendly with his female neighbors and probably cheating that I was just not interested anymore. We were just living like roommates...

Happy Valentine Everyone!!! I Love you but I am my own Valentine *Smiles*

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!! This post should have come early considering this is a Life and Dating blog but better late than ever right? And to my catholic folks, I welcome you to the season of Lent.   Before now, Nigerians made all sorts of memes talking about the fact that Valentine fell on not just Lenten season but Champions League where popular team ,Real Madrid Vs PSG anf Chelsea Vs Barcelona will be playing., telling ladies this day was not just favorable for them ‘us’.

My Dating Experience :My First Love {Part 4} Cont'd

On the second month of my IT, I lost my dad…it was the most horrifying time of my life. I had never lost anyone that close to me before, so it was tough. My boyfriend attended the funeral in my village and somehow we became close again; I shared a lot of things with him and he could also relate with it. I didn’t want to go home immediately so I followed him back to school after the funeral. He took care of me during that period, I felt numb, something in me changed.

My Dating Experience : My First Love Part 3 {Cont'd}

And everything was fine …well for a while. The next day, I was still in bed (not just in the mood for lectures or seeing anyone) then I get a call from my boyfriend that he was downstairs. He said “Hey, I’m sorry, can I see you? I’m downstairs” I was so excited and I said “I’m coming”.   My eyes were still swollen from crying, I didn’t have anything to eat because I just didn’t have the appetite. I met him downstairs, he smiled and said he missed me and I should follow him home. We went home and continued like nothing happened.

My Dating Experience : My First Love Part 3

The next day , I felt so guilty and bad that I decided to make amends with my boyfriend since it was loneliness that made me do what I did in the first place.

I Had a Thing With My Neighbor {Part 1}

Well when I say a “thing” I don’t mean a fling, I barely do flings (and don’t judge anyone that does) –so it wasn’t a fling, what was it then? You ask…to be honest i don’t know but it was something. This happened when I got my own apartment , I didn’t know what to expect or to do what I did (trust me it wasn’t that big a deal…or was it? hmmm, maybe). I was just a single gal, looking for privacy and trying to make ends meet.

My Dating Experience : My First Love 2

After spending few months with my elder sister that lives on her own, I got admission into the university. I was so excited but had no idea what to expect; the thought of being in another state for four years made me nervous but luckily I wasn’t alone, my brother got admission there as well. Since I didn’t have a space in the hostel yet, I had to crash at a childhood friend’s place and my bro did the same- there was no boys’ hostel, just girls hostel.