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Happy Valentine Everyone!!! I Love you but I am my own Valentine *Smiles*

Happy Valentine’s Day everyone!!! This post should have come early considering this is a Life and Dating blog but better late than ever right? And to my catholic folks, I welcome you to the season of Lent.  Before now, Nigerians made all sorts of memes talking about the fact that Valentine fell on not just Lenten season but Champions League where popular team ,Real Madrid Vs PSG anf Chelsea Vs Barcelona will be playing., telling ladies this day was not just favorable for them ‘us’. You know what I think? Everyday should be a day of love not just Valentine’s day and for those that just have to celebrate their love on Valentine’s Day …despite these other activities, make time!

According to Wikipedia: Valentine's Day, also called Saint Valentine's Day or the Feast of Saint Valentine,[1] is celebrated annually on February 14. Originating as a Western Christian feast day honoring one or two early saints named Valentinus, Valentine's Day is recognized as a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and romantic love in many regions around the world, although it is not a public holiday in any country. Saint Valentine was a priest in Rome who is martyred in 269 and was added to the calendar of saints by pope Galesius in 496 and was buried on the Via Flaminia.
Image result for flowers and candy? How about fire and brimstone?

Ash Wednesday is a Christian day for peace and the first day of Lent, which is six weeks of repentance before Easter. Ash Wednesday is observed by many Western Christians, including Anglicans, Lutherans, Methodists, Presbyterians, Roman Catholics,[note 1] and some Baptists.[1] It derives its name from the placing of repentance ashes on the foreheads of participants to either the words "Repent, and believe in the Gospel" or the dictum "Remember that you are dust, and to dust you shall return."[2]

Anyways this is not a history site, just trying to make you understand where it began.  Valentine for me has been like every other day (well, apart from when I was in a relationship –which was a long time ago). So, how I’m I spending my valentine? Well, at home mostly and church in the evening for Ash Wednesday.

I woke up late this morning because I was awake almost throughout the night, my data was off and since I’m currently unemployed, I spent my day working out and having conversations with my mum and siblings (the ones off duty). Watched this new Ryan Murphy and Brad Falchuk series ,911 and some episodes of Lip Sync Battle, ate noodles and I remembered today is valentines’ day and I said to myself “I  just have to give you guys something”.  Been having writer’s block for some weeks now (think I still do), don’t know if it’s cause I’ve been uninspired or I’ve been bingeing on Game of Thrones… Yes ,guy I finally saw the HBO hit epic series ,season 1 – 7 and I must say it’s everything everyone have been talking about and more.

You are probably wondering why I’ve not seen the popular series all this while, well I’m not the epic movie kinda girl unless I see my favorite actors or actresses there; the truth is I watched Season 1 episode 1 two years ago but I was really bored that I couldn’t finish the episode and I was impatient to see what the fuss was about until this year. And I wasn’t disappointed; my favorite cast in the series: The Dwarf –Tyrion Lannister,his friend,Bronn.,Arya Stark,Jon Snow, dragon Queen –Daenerys Targaryen, Cersei Lannister and her father ,Tywin Lannister – these are their stage names btw. Okay enough reviews of Game of throne, just know HBO out did themselves in this one and I can’t wait for the final season set to premiere in 2019.
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So back to how I am spending my Valentine; at home, writing and attending mass in the evening, also avoiding Facebook since I don’t want to be reminded that I’m not in a relationship.  With my first love, Valentine was just me playing house; preparing fried rice and making out, It wasn’t romantic, it was just there. Though my bff made it worthwhile by taking me and out with a friend and his friend- it would have been awkward if it was just the two of us but that was what made the day feel like it was a day of love, even though it wasn’t with my boyfriend (that was the weird part)… People have different Valentine’s Day experience; both couples and singles; for me that is how I am spending mine but this is how I hope I would spend Valentine day;

If I had Someone
Firstly would attend mas in the morning, send my boo a message or call, go to work (if I was employed), would have gotten my partner a gift before today; the gift would be what he has been talking about that he needs (if I can afford it) or what I know he needs. If he was a football fan, I’d take him to his favorite spot or a classy spot where we could both watch the game. Yes I know what some of my Nigerian girls would be saying “he is the man, he should go the extra mile”…I’m pretty sure the man I’ll be with would have a great thing planned but I would also want to do something nice for him. Our plan and schedule might clash but one of us would have to pick which one is best and go for it. I’d visit the orphanage and give them some money and food items.

As a millionaire (in pounds *wink*)
Will do everything I mentioned above and more. And as a couple; I would take my boo to the games to watch it live where ever it is in the world. For the orphanage; Grant scholarships for 5 students.  If he is not a football fan, I’d take him to his favorite place in the world.  As a single girl; I’d take myself (and family) to my favorite place in the world, go to the hottest restaurants, eat exotic foods, take amazing photos… you know, just show love to my loved ones and myself.

That’s what Valentine’s Day is about, it about a day of love. You don’t have to show love to only your partner, it could be your friend, family or a stranger. Just show someone…anyone that they matter and they are loved. I don’t have a partner but I have people that matter to me and more importantly I love myself, so I am my own Valentine and owe it to myself to be loved. Therefore, I am doing things that make me happy. Love is a beautiful thing and having someone to share that with is equally beautiful, so I’m hopeful that person will come around but until then Happy Valentine to me.


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