Life And Dating

  I didn't know what to feel when you shared a photo of your fiancee wearing her engagement ring. And then my heart starts to hurt and tears fall down my eyes. I ask myself, where do I go from here? What do I do now? Will I ever get married? Was my instinct wrong all along? I thought you and I were endgame. All these while, I silently waited. Who will I love now? Who will get me as you do? who loves the same music as I do and looks at me the way you do? Am I hallucinating? Was it all I'm my head? Was I wrong about you all these while? She is cute. Is she all you ever wanted? Oh, it hurts! It hurts, I can't sleep. Tears won't stop falling down my eyes.  I feel like a part of me died. What is the point of hustling anymore? What is the point of being a better version of myself?  Why am I trying so hard? Who can I love again? Who can I love? God I need your comfort, I don't know how I will get through this. I don't know how to live again. I am going through

Hello everyone, Incase I have not said happy New Year in advance. Happy New year!!! Ugh, a lot of things happened to me this year 2022; I lost my younger brother in January , quit my job in May and quit the new one in October. I met some cool people and lost some. I went through an emotional roller coaster and my blood pressure got really high. There is a lot to unpack here but I really don’t feel like writing about it. Yes that is another thing; I have not been feeling like writing anything since I started staying at home again. I don’t feel like seeing people or going out. Been thinking of how to make money without having to go to work six days a week every single morning, facing Lagos traffic and all the crazies that come with 9 to 5. I feel hung-over typing this - tried to write articles every day but that didn’t work out, keep questioning myself if I am a good writer and why is it taking me this long to write something.   Two days ago, I was really upset and just irritated. You kn

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Hey guys, How are  you all doing? Hope great. I'm fine thank you for asking. So I know it's been a while you heard from me,well I've been busy with moving with my family ,work, mum feeling sick,Easter …. It's been a year guys…And you know what?  Though I've been really stressed, I like that I've been very busy:you know, not worry about not being in a relationship and all that crap (yeah I call it crap cause dating is hard and Nigerian men don't make it easy). The strange thing is, while I was pursuing money and getting really busy, somehow I've managed to be social - well not entirely, I'm quite the introvert but I met a new friend.  I know you are wondering oh just one friend?! Trust me making friends is not the problem, it's making genuine friends...So yeah, it's a big deal for me. Anyways, I met this friend while I was house hunting (she is a lady, in case you are wondering),half Ghanai

Yeah it just so happens that I'm attracted to really attractive married man. You know, I had no idea he was married when we met the first time - it was at my work place. Like I mentioned on balancing work and life. ..I work in a facility and this particular guy is in charge of maintaining the lift. On that first day, I was with my colleague and boss when he walked in and I was like who is this tall, dark and handsome fella (and really young) but I wasn't really focused on him cause I had a lot of work to do that day and calls make. Didn't know he was still around, so I stepped outside to make a personal call when he drove by and said hi (would have mentioned the name of the car but I'm not good with cars) and I said hi back. He introduced himself, said I look nice and asked if I had anything for lunch, I said not yet and he gave me two thousand Naira to have lunch and asked for my number; I gladly gave him since I didn't see a ring in his finger. Af

Hi everyone, Happy new  year!!! Been MIA for too long and I have a good reason for that . You see, I got a job and it's been taking my time a lot -like I work Mondays to Saturdays (well, half day but what's the difference? As long as I leave my house that day, it doesn't matter when I get  back.  Anywho, I'm sort of back -i said sort of cause I'm still trying to figure out how I would keep posting articles with my work schedule (fingers crossed) but you know what? This is 2019,so no excuses, we just have to try however we can to achieve what we need to achieve (whether it is comfortable or not).  Besides I'm using my phone to write this on my way home, so what's your excuse? The job is on the island and I live on the mainland so I've been trying to get used to the routine so it doesn't affect the job and my writing of course  - if I'm not in that frame of mind, I won't give you something with quality.  So my friends, I just want to wis

Um, there are a lot of things on my mind but right now is staring at my blog account, seeing how i have not been able to post anything for two weeks. To be honest a lot have been going on that i didn't know how i totally abandoned my blog. It's not that i haven't thought of writing something, it’s just before i try to write something, I tell myself it has to be a very long post and i ask if i have enough time to write it.

That’s what I heard growing up; either from people, in a song or family but I never really understood it until life began to deal with me. Don’t settle for less, you deserve better, you are too good for this and that… And you know what? It is true. Despite what life throws at you, you are better than that, you deserve more than what you are getting. We are all here for a reason, a purpose and need to be able to take it – whatever that is.

Before blogging became what it is today, it was more of an online journal. But now, it’s a form of business and people are making not just a living but a fortune from it. Normally I love writing; I would write in my notebook or diary, so when I discovered blogging, I was excited to show the word my craft.   When some Nigerian bloggers like Linda Ikeji and Bella Naija started making money from it, I thought “oh, this is great”, I should start making money but the truth is, it’s not as easy as it seems. If you want to start a blog; whether as a hobby (the truth is, it always starts this way but then when you hear people making money from it, you become tempted to want to know how to make money as well) or business, you need to;

There are a lot of things I wish I knew before starting it; whether is a career move, relationships, dealing with family... Most times its when we fail we learn but I always wondered why I didn't have anyone to advice me, someone close to look up to. Sometimes, all we need is ourselves to get through a situation, to create something, to be great...and with this comes mistakes, that's how we learn from them. So, here are seven things I regret doing in my life.

Don’t you wish someone would just ask you that? And I’m not saying just for formalities ,like when a guy chat you up and ask “sup”, “how was your day” cause he is just trying to be polite or just thinks that’s what he supposed to do to show that he cares. I’m talking about someone asking “how is life with you” and really mean it. Like they really want to know if you are okay; not just financially, physically and emotionally.

Who is this?   At least that’s what I wanted to ask when I saw your whatsapp status but I said “who is the birthday girl?” I think I know the reply.   Do I really want to know?

Sorry guys, I’ve not been online for more than a month now. There is a good explanation for this; you know I told you I’ll be doing some job hunting or training that could lead to a job. Well, this past few weeks was for training on Production Assistant in Media and Entertainment. It wasn’t fun in the beginning but at the end, it was worth it. Not sure I’ve ever been committed to anything like I was with that class. You see, I’ve been unemployed for a year now and I told myself whatever it is I get myself involved in, I would put my 100% (guys, I wish I could do that for this blog but your girl has to put food on the table. Sadly this blog is not doing that just yet)...and I did. Well, sort of since we were shared into groups and didn’t have a say on which group we (well, I didn’t get a chance to pick a group, I was just fixed in one) want to be in.

At Sixteen, I was done with secondary school, preparing to write my jamb. I fantasized about being a singer and I would tell my friends to join me so we could form a group like Destiny's child. I also enjoyed writing my feelings and tried writing songs as well even though I didn't know what's was doing.