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50 Awesome Ways to Make Your Life Better

Don't we all want to better our lives? Of course, we do. Even though sometimes we feel like crap and don't want to do anything about it or even try, because what is the point. After all, we will all end up six feet, right? Hmm, but the truth is, as long as we are in this world, we just want to be happy and live a fulfilled life where everything works and where we are loved by all -most importantly the ones that are really close to us. I'll tell you this; our lives can't be hundred per cent but they could be close. And yes though we can't always feel accomplished but we can at least try. Here are a few ways (50 awesome ways actually) to make your life better.

When you don't know what to do

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed. First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media! My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it. Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there? You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you c

Why I am Not having Sex

Just saw a cute Lebanese guy in my estate and I remember seeing him with a Nigerian girl, probably his girlfriend. And I imagined the kind of sex they would have; I know it's weird, maybe it's cause I'm ovulating I don't know, lol. It made me wonder, why I am not having sex. And I realized, I'm not having sex because I'm waiting to do it with my husband. I'm I a virgin, no. Of course, I think about sex but I'm not just hoping to have it randomly cause I have an itch.  Would it be nice to have it? yeah but I think waiting is better for me. You know, I've been trying to date and see if I have a potential mate, but I keep meeting unserious guys. Most guys are just so boring these days, the minute you give them your number and you guys start chatting, the next thing, they are asking is to send your photos.  I don't like taking photos (selfies maybe), so it could be a deal-breaker for them since I'm not just that girly -girl that just wants to be

How to get over someone you love

  Love is a very beautiful thing and it could lead to happily ever after or it could lead to something disastrous.  There is indeed a thin line between love and hate.  But should that stop us from loving anyways? It never does and we shouldn't try to. Just like a One Tree Hill quote; "And if you're lucky, if you're the luckiest person on this entire planet, the person you love decides to love you back.” So why do we want to get over someone we love or used to love? They broke our hearts (maybe not intentionally),we changed and they didn't...Whatever it is, we just want to forget about them and act like it never happened.  Sorry to burst your bubble but you can't forget someone you love or used to love,they are part of you now.  You can only move on.  Does it take time? Yes. Will you find love again, Yes. Is there a time frame to get over someone? No (won't that be great though?) . I don't know where I read or heard this but it says it takes half the tim

What happens if you lose your virginity before 22?

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

My Dating experience :Letter to an unnecessary Ex

Here's a letter to my ex that shouldn't have been an ex in the first place; Dear Valentine, I kept on thinking about our conversation after we ended the call yesterday and I just haven't gotten over it. I'm just sad. After saying you were testing me, it got me thinking how someone that claims to love you would use your weakness against you. You once said you couldn't figure me out and that I should help you out. I didn't want to cause I feared what would happen ,yet I opened up and told you about things that get me upset, I even explained my mood swings that time of the month. But you chose to "test " me after I spoke to you about my colleagues. After you flared up about video call ( when you should have been honest with me about it from the start),have I ever talked about it with you since then? No!  Because I know it's not something you like and I don't want to upset you. That is what people that love each other do. They both know

How my year is going so far...

Hey guys, How are  you all doing? Hope great. I'm fine thank you for asking. So I know it's been a while you heard from me,well I've been busy with moving with my family ,work, mum feeling sick,Easter …. It's been a year guys…And you know what?  Though I've been really stressed, I like that I've been very busy:you know, not worry about not being in a relationship and all that crap (yeah I call it crap cause dating is hard and Nigerian men don't make it easy). The strange thing is, while I was pursuing money and getting really busy, somehow I've managed to be social - well not entirely, I'm quite the introvert but I met a new friend.  I know you are wondering oh just one friend?! Trust me making friends is not the problem, it's making genuine friends...So yeah, it's a big deal for me. Anyways, I met this friend while I was house hunting (she is a lady, in case you are wondering),half Ghanai

How do you balance work and writing life

Okay guys ,you know I said I needed a job like yesterday but the thing is, in a way it has been affecting my writing. The last article was in a bus and so is this one. Did I also mention I live in Lagos? So imagine how uncomfortable it will be... But I just have to try, especially for you guys. This is the fourth month since I started the job and I'll tell you, I'm still figuring it out.  Let me tell you about the job ; it's a facility management company and to be honest, the job is just me (I'm mostly in control of everything that goes on in my apartment and building)... What I mean is, it's my everyday life ;I'm the help desk - I take request from a resident and it's not something that is strange to me even though it's my first time working for a facility company. The thing is, the building (which is also my office) is on the Island and I stay on the mainland - anyone living in Nigeria would know how crazy Lagos traffic can be which means one have to

What Married Men want from single girls

Sometimes I ask myself what married men want from single girl, in other words…why they cheat and I summarized it to a few things. You see, people always have reasons for what they do which is normal. These days, cheating seems to be what’s up and what’s hot, that if you are not doing so, you are not from this world. Some might say the problem is from their wives, others might say he is just a player and a man might just say it happens. Well, I’d like to say, while some would say it’s their nature, married men just want these from single girls; Your body Let’s get real here, it is really rare to see a married man cheat with his age mate or someone older than his wife and here is why; men are attracted by what they see. Before a man approaches a lady, the first thing he is drawn to is her beauty. So imagine a man seeing a young girl (maybe a student –they usually love them since most of them are not looking to commit) with her youthful, innocent body and face, he will be naturally

What is on my mind right now?

Um, there are a lot of things on my mind but right now is staring at my blog account, seeing how i have not been able to post anything for two weeks. To be honest a lot have been going on that i didn't know how i totally abandoned my blog. It's not that i haven't thought of writing something, it’s just before i try to write something, I tell myself it has to be a very long post and i ask if i have enough time to write it.

Why do I keep having dreams of my ex?

Okay, since last year I've been having dreams of my ex, who was also my first love . From, my dating experience, you can see why it didn't work out. Though, it was painful but it had to be done. After the breakup, I felt we had unfinished business or some closure to do  that each time we see it doesn't feel like we have. I barely dreamt about him but it became serious beginning of last year, that I had to buzz him on Facebook where he quickly told me he is engaged to be married as if I was trying to get him back. I wasn't trying to get him back, a part of me just wanted to know why I had that first dream which I barely have of him.

Don't settle for less,you deserve better

That’s what I heard growing up; either from people, in a song or family but I never really understood it until life began to deal with me. Don’t settle for less, you deserve better, you are too good for this and that… And you know what? It is true. Despite what life throws at you, you are better than that, you deserve more than what you are getting. We are all here for a reason, a purpose and need to be able to take it – whatever that is.

How lonely are you?

Relationship wise, I'm really lonely… well career wise as well. You know, sometimes I want my alone time. Yes I know I want someone in my life but sometimes I think about being with one person for the rest of my life. I know you are wondering if I'm alright,i promise you I am and I want to believe I'm not the only one who feels this way.  Maybe it's because I have not found the right person to be with -being with the right person makes the relationship easier and worthwhile…. At least that's what I want to believe since I have not met the right person yet.

Why exercising might seem difficult

To be honest exercising is not my favorite thing in the world but it is important. You know… health wise.   A younger me hardly exercise and it took a toll on me when I clocked 30. Though I did some dancing in school and sports activities that involved competition –though, that was in primary school, lol. The thing is I only exercise when it’s fun or because i feel like it, which involved mostly dancing. And I do this like maybe twice amount, which was not enough.

7 Things i Regret Doing in Life

There are a lot of things I wish I knew before starting it; whether is a career move, relationships, dealing with family... Most times its when we fail we learn but I always wondered why I didn't have anyone to advice me, someone close to look up to. Sometimes, all we need is ourselves to get through a situation, to create something, to be great...and with this comes mistakes, that's how we learn from them. So, here are seven things I regret doing in my life.

How is life with you?

Don’t you wish someone would just ask you that? And I’m not saying just for formalities ,like when a guy chat you up and ask “sup”, “how was your day” cause he is just trying to be polite or just thinks that’s what he supposed to do to show that he cares. I’m talking about someone asking “how is life with you” and really mean it. Like they really want to know if you are okay; not just financially, physically and emotionally.

My Dating experience :My First Love Part 6

The next day, I was waiting for my boyfriend, the agent, anyone … Thankfully, he arrived in the afternoon - he went to the agent house for the key before he came. I was so relieved; I hugged him and he joked about me being locked up. I followed him to give the key back to the agent.

My dating experience :My First Love Part 5 {Cont'd}

We arrived for second semester and it was my last semester in that School. I was excited cause I didn't have to worry about getting through with some courses; not like they were hard but you know they are some annoying lecturers that just enjoy failing people while some just want you to bribe them not to...Either way, I was excited but not too excited cause I would miss my friends.

What I've Been Up to These Past Few Weeks

Sorry guys, I’ve not been online for more than a month now. There is a good explanation for this; you know I told you I’ll be doing some job hunting or training that could lead to a job. Well, this past few weeks was for training on Production Assistant in Media and Entertainment. It wasn’t fun in the beginning but at the end, it was worth it. Not sure I’ve ever been committed to anything like I was with that class. You see, I’ve been unemployed for a year now and I told myself whatever it is I get myself involved in, I would put my 100% (guys, I wish I could do that for this blog but your girl has to put food on the table. Sadly this blog is not doing that just yet)...and I did. Well, sort of since we were shared into groups and didn’t have a say on which group we (well, I didn’t get a chance to pick a group, I was just fixed in one) want to be in.

My dating experience :My First Love Part 5

It was the first semester of my final year,i was preparing for my exams and living with my boyfriend - it wasn't  a wise choice.  Sometimes, we (my boyfriend and I)  would study together, other times I'd go for night class and study there. I got used to my boyfriend not making me a priority, keeping late nights, being too friendly with his female neighbors and probably cheating that I was just not interested anymore. We were just living like roommates...