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When you don't know what to do

Sometimes when we feel stuck and lost, we just assume that every other person is doing better than us. That is not true. Most times when we don't know what to do, it simply means that we are overwhelmed.

First of all, what do you want to do? Because most times we don't have anything to do but we feel like we should be doing something. Therefore, make sure you stay away from social media; except you are watching comedy on YouTube, DO NOT check your social media!

My simple and short answer for if you don’t know what to do would just be not to do anything at all. You can only do something that needs to be done. If there is nothing to do, you can’t do anything about it.

Have you heard of the phrase, let go of what you can’t change? Then you should practice that, cause holding on to something you can’t do anything about will cause anxiety, depression and exhaustion. So why look for what is not there?

You have to be specific about what it is you want to do, that is the only way you can solve it. If it has to do with your career, personal goal or family… That is a different thing altogether. Cause now you know the problem, so you plan towards solving it.

And who said you have to deal with things alone? When things become too overwhelming, you should talk to someone. If you have no one to talk to then you can talk to a therapist. If you don't have money for a therapist you can go online, you can get free therapy online these days e.g better help.

And if you can’t do that, you can email me. Sometimes all we need is just someone to talk to, it mustn’t necessarily mean a professional. I am a good listener and one of the reasons I got this website, is to be able to share my experience with people and be a listening ear to whoever wants to talk.

If you really don’t know what to do, like you are stuck in your bed and literally can not think of anything to do. Then do this;

Try doing some exercise


Take a hot or cold shower depending on your weather

Read a book

Watch your favourite show

Take a walk while you listen to feel-good music

Go to the grocery store

Take a nap –Yeah sometimes what we need is just a good nap.

Cook something in the kitchen…Just move!

You don’t have to do all that at the same time; it could be one of each.

Don’t just be at a place, wondering why you don’t know what to do –this would only make you feel worse.


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