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Why you should not make your boyfriend jealous

Most of us, especially young couples feel the need to make their boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, why do we do this though? Is it to get attention, to spice up the relationship or just to play games?

Relationships comes with everything; the happy, the sad, the good, the bad and the ugly but it takes people that really love and respect each other to know that they don’t need to make the other person feel jealous. This is why you should not try to make your boyfriend jealous;

Someone always get hurt

Someone always gets hurt in the process. I remember myuniversity days when I tried to make my boyfriend jealous by always meeting with his friend. The thing is, I had no idea that his friends had a plan to set me up – well, cause of how my then boyfriend bragged about me (Also, his friend secretly liked me).

So this best friend bet with his other friends that he would get me. My boyfriend and I were having a misunderstanding and his friend kind of took advantage of it –it was funny how he happened to be there when I needed someone, looking back it all made sense. Though we had a lot in common, so it wasn’t always bad meeting up but I just hung out because I assumed he would tell his friend, my boyfriend that he saw me.

To cut the story short, it didn’t end well. He kissed me shockingly and I told him I would have to tell my boyfriend about it. He begged me not to that his girlfriend would not forgive him. I know his girlfriend and we have this group couple thing we did that I didn’t want to ruin that; without knowing this guy had an agenda.

I stopped seeing him but I could not keep lying to my boyfriend, so I told him and we almost broke up for it. After that time the trust was lost and the relationship was not the same, even though we tried.

Love is not a game

I know some people might argue about this, given the multiple dating apps and shows. Also the fact that men love to play games but I tell you, true love does not play games -maybe in the beginning when you all are trying to get to know one another, not a serious relationship.

Someone that really loves you will be there for you and give you the attention you need that you don’t need to seek it from someone else or make him jealous to notice.

It’s a waste of time

Take it from someone who has played all the games (hmm, maybe not all but a good amount)…it’s not worth it and it’s a total waste of time. Just imagine playing games with someone that doesn’t even care about you. What’s the point? Why waste your energy on a relationship that is not working.

If he/she can’t see how awesome you are and you need to bring someone else in the picture, then he is not the one for you and you are just wasting your time.

That same energy used to make him jealous, use the same to make you happy. Use it to learn new things. Start a new hobby, watch your favorite show, take a nap (cause, boy! is very exhausting looking for attention or trying to get someone that doesn’t care about you to notice).

If you feel the need to make your boyfriend jealous, maybe it’s time to validate the relationship.

Conclusion

Like most genuine married couples say; “When you meet your own, you just know – though I am not married (this is also for married couples) yet I believe it’s when you meet that person ,you have this sense of peace and like you have found home (hmm, a new home since you had a home before he/she arrived). Besides why would someone that wants to be with you, waste time with you or make you feel any less than you deserve? That’s when you should know, it’s not just it.

Although some people just love the games aka “DRAMA”, if you meet the one and believe in your heart of hearts that he/she is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, trust me you don’t need to make him/her jealous. It would only hurt them and bring problem to the relationship.

Also knowing that “if it’s meant to be, it will be” but why make someone feel unloved to test them only to lose them and they come back to begin the episode again? It’s draining and no one has the time to keep going back and fought when they could easily be with someone that treats them otherwise.  Everyone wants to feel loved and be loved, so before you think of making him/her jealous, think of the consequences and if the relationship is worth it.

Is it wise to make your boyfriend/girlfriend jealous? And why do you think it is? Share in the comment section.

 


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