Life And Dating

What happens after you lose your virginity? Well, life happens, you move on. You are still you – well with a broken hymen (ah, that sounds gross!). Well, it’s not that big a deal, I’ll tell you my story; Losing my virginity was with my first boyfriend –we dated for two years before I decided to give it up. It was during my university days; I always had this notion that whoever would take my virginity would be my husband, lol - how naive of me. Anyways, I fell in love but I was always scared of penetration. There was this girl in my hostel that guys bragged about having intercourse with her.  I’m on the big size, well tall because I was quite slim in school. This girl was really petite and yet guys would brag about doing all kinds of things to her and I wondered –how can someone this small have intercourse – again, very naive of me. So on the faithful day, one hot afternoon, I paid my boyfriend a visit and told him I was ready. He kept asking if I was sure and I told him “I am” th

Most of us, especially young couples feel the need to make their boyfriend/girlfriend jealous, why do we do this though? Is it to get attention, to spice up the relationship or just to play games? Relationships comes with everything; the happy, the sad, the good, the bad and the ugly but it takes people that really love and respect each other to know that they don’t need to make the other person feel jealous. This is why you should not try to make your boyfriend jealous; Someone always get hurt Someone always gets hurt in the process. I remember myuniversity days when I tried to make my boyfriend jealous by always meeting with his friend. The thing is, I had no idea that his friends had a plan to set me up – well, cause of how my then boyfriend bragged about me (Also, his friend secretly liked me). So this best friend bet with his other friends that he would get me. My boyfriend and I were having a misunderstanding and his friend kind of took advantage of it –it was funny how

People will always disappoint you, no matter who they are or who they used be.  Though it hurts when it's someone you really love, it really hurts... You know, we date people and break up. Some we break up for good reasons, some for bad and some for something that don't just make any sense.  Sometimes we want to get back with them, maybe like the latter...which is due to a little misunderstanding but it doesn't always work out that way . I went to see my ex last year , he lives in another state and invited me. This was after I reached out;  I did it cause since we broke up, we keep going on a roller coaster - this year I'll block him, next year we are in contact again. I just wanted to grow the F-up.  And yes a part of me misses him, I kept wondering what went wrong. It's a long story but I really want to talk about it, so here goes; It all started during my prescience, I met this talk, lanky, fair  handsome but shy guy, we say 'hello' 'hi',

Here's a letter to my ex that shouldn't have been an ex in the first place; Dear Valentine, I kept on thinking about our conversation after we ended the call yesterday and I just haven't gotten over it. I'm just sad. After saying you were testing me, it got me thinking how someone that claims to love you would use your weakness against you. You once said you couldn't figure me out and that I should help you out. I didn't want to cause I feared what would happen ,yet I opened up and told you about things that get me upset, I even explained my mood swings that time of the month. But you chose to "test " me after I spoke to you about my colleagues. After you flared up about video call ( when you should have been honest with me about it from the start),have I ever talked about it with you since then? No!  Because I know it's not something you like and I don't want to upset you. That is what people that love each other do. They both know

Happy new year everyone!!!  Last year ended yesterday and today is a new day.  I'm so grateful for life, my family, friends and you all. I wish you the best year yet and may all your  awesome dreams come true.  No matter what life throws at you, take it like a champ and keep moving.  As long as we are alive, the sky is just a stepping stone.  You and I are made for greatness!  And from the look of things, 2020 is already looking better - Hey!  my first post in a long time *smiles *. I love you all and I hope I keep doing this everyday. Happy 2020 everyone!!! XO

Hey guys, How are  you all doing? Hope great. I'm fine thank you for asking. So I know it's been a while you heard from me,well I've been busy with moving with my family ,work, mum feeling sick,Easter …. It's been a year guys…And you know what?  Though I've been really stressed, I like that I've been very busy:you know, not worry about not being in a relationship and all that crap (yeah I call it crap cause dating is hard and Nigerian men don't make it easy). The strange thing is, while I was pursuing money and getting really busy, somehow I've managed to be social - well not entirely, I'm quite the introvert but I met a new friend.  I know you are wondering oh just one friend?! Trust me making friends is not the problem, it's making genuine friends...So yeah, it's a big deal for me. Anyways, I met this friend while I was house hunting (she is a lady, in case you are wondering),half Ghanai

Yeah it just so happens that I'm attracted to really attractive married man. You know, I had no idea he was married when we met the first time - it was at my work place. Like I mentioned on balancing work and life. ..I work in a facility and this particular guy is in charge of maintaining the lift. On that first day, I was with my colleague and boss when he walked in and I was like who is this tall, dark and handsome fella (and really young) but I wasn't really focused on him cause I had a lot of work to do that day and calls make. Didn't know he was still around, so I stepped outside to make a personal call when he drove by and said hi (would have mentioned the name of the car but I'm not good with cars) and I said hi back. He introduced himself, said I look nice and asked if I had anything for lunch, I said not yet and he gave me two thousand Naira to have lunch and asked for my number; I gladly gave him since I didn't see a ring in his finger. Af